Que sera, sera Whatever Will Be, Will Be

Que sera, sera.  I remember that song from my teenage years.

“When I was just a little girl, I asked my mother, what will I be?  Will I be pretty, will I be rich?” Here’s what she said to me. “Que sera, sera. Whatever will be will be”

The song goes on through many key life stages.  How wise are all the people in the song!  Do we even know what it means? As with Reiki and other spiritual paths, we use the term “Let go of the outcomes”, and “holding the space for someone.”

In his book Reiki Insights, page 99, Frans Stiene writes:
“If we hold space for someone during a hands-on healing session, then we need to let go of any outcome. As soon as we have an idea that the pain needs to be gone or that an emotional issue needs to be resolved, then we are holding on to this certain outcome, we are not holding space. Holding space means letting go of trying to fix our client. As soon as we try to fix our client, our ego is in the way and therefore we are not holding space.”

There are many instances in our relationships with others where we are attempting to “hold the space” to allow the other to grow for example.  Can we consider this concept of letting go of the outcomes in some aspects of parenting, mentoring, coaching?  What if we were to substitute those kinds of relationships when Frans writes about healing sessions and clients?

Frans Stiene writes:

“Holding space during a session therefore also means that we need to let go of judging, labelling, and distinguishing because as soon as we are doing that, we are coming from the ego.”

I am personally exploring what that feels like for me.  What it means intellectually is one thing but actually experiencing it is totally different.

When I practice reiki on myself, intending  to release stress, I may not notice the effect I hope for.  At least not immediately.  Reiki is for the highest good of all concerned.  I do not really know what that might be.  Is the stress serving some purpose in leading me  in a new direction?  Or is the stress giving me a message I am not listening to.  So I let go of the outcomes and notice what will be.  Instead I intend to allow the energy I need to give me what ever I most need at that moment and “que sera sera”.

I invite you to reread this as it pertains to you.  I remind myself of this regularly because it is not how I have learned to operate in the world.  I have to learn new habits.

Perhaps you have an example you would like to share with me privately at livingreiki@rogers.com.  I would love to hear from you.

PS.  Thank you for reading this blog.  Because I have been reworking my web site you may not have received the last blog or two so I invite you to check out blog articles on my website and scroll down.  Thank you for joining me.

Till next time,

Reflections on quotes from Frans Stiene

Summer busyness accompanied by dismantled routines distracts me. It is not easy to consistently follow the meditations I had intended to do. Today I begin again.  I remember not to judge myself but the tendency is there and it takes time to let that go and just accept and love who I am.

Frans Stiene’s latest book “Reiki Insights” (available on amazon .com) gives me some thoughts to remember. The Chapter on page 75 is titled “How  to Stop Being Uncomfortable with Ourselves” .  How true that the Reiki practices are not easy and can “stir up stuff”.  Generally we do not like looking deep within ourselves.  The process tends to be an up and down process for me. When I am uncomfortable with “the stuff” I dig up, I f ind myself slowing down my practice and even ‘accidentally’ forgetting about it.

Frans says “It is like trying to train a wild horse; the wild horse represents our confused mind. It takes a lot of effort and patience to train a wild horse and sometimes we fall off the horse and hurt ourselves. We stir up emotions , things we do not want to look at: fear, worry, anger, you name it. But if we want to help others, then it is of utmost importance that we start to tame our own confused mind first.”

It is when I do not want to look at myself that I tend to blame others, or circumstances, or life for what I see as my failings.  We do that, don’t we?  We blame others and/or ourselves, labelling ourselves and others in the process.  How can we get out of that pattern?  First we have to recognize what we are doing.  Oooooh that is a tough one!  How do we get out of this habit when we really don’t want to admit our shortcomings.

Frans tells us “It means that we start to accept ourselves for who we are with all our pain, discomfort, joy, issues and attachments. We start to become friends with ourselves again…  I call this ‘being naked’ with yourself.  Being naked is about accepting yourself completely, without judging or labeling.  It is letting go of criticizing ourselves.  The precept ‘show compassion to yourself’ is pointing this out.” 

This brings to mind the concept of the shadow self. I found reading Debbie Ford’s book “Dark Side of the Light Chasers” meaningful in helping me understand this concept.  Yet “getting it” intellectually does not mean that we are able to make it real for us.  I know in my head that when I see something I react to in another, there is a good chance I need to look at that within myself.  But oh how difficult that can be.  I resist.  And sometimes out of the blue one day, I realize at a deeper level that it is true within me and I need to accept it.  When I finally do that, does it ever change how I view the other.  Little by little, step by step,  I learn more about me and become just a bit more comfortable with myself.

This brings me to a question for you.  In one or two words, can you share with me/us what is the most challenging thing for you to accept about yourself?  Just acknowledging that can be a big step in your process

For me it is the “nastiness”.  You only need to give one word.

I can sometimes speak in a nasty tone with those I love the most.  I do not think of myself as a nasty person. But I am learning to accept that there are circumstances when that nasty side shows its face.  I don’t like it and I deny it but today I realize it is there, showing its face occasionally, but staying hidden from my self awareness.  In accepting it, perhaps it will be less hidden from me.

To end this reflection I quote Frans again: “When we stop labelling and judging ourselves, we reach a state of mind of stillness.”

The Reiki Precepts: Just for Today

Do not be angry
Do not worry
Be grateful
Be true to your way and your being
Show compassion to yourself and other.

Till next time,


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Reiki and its meaning in these times

It is a cool morning in Baños, Ecuador.  We are here for three weeks in February. Among other adventures, it gives me an opportunity for reflection.  I ponder meaning — again — something whose presence has nudged me since childhood.  

Now I ask myself what keeps me so connected with Reiki. I sit back from myself.  I ask my soul self what is it I am drawn to with Reiki. Why do I sense it’s major importance?

I reflect.  The world is troubled.   Do you agree?  There is much unrest both politically and environmentally. Do you find you can get easily trapped in discussing or sharing the negative stuff? Yet lingering in the shadow, while still knowing we need to acknowledge it, but lingering there — changes nothing.

I know personally I need to lift my spirit and raise my vibration in order to find the inner strength, wisdom and courage to act.

What action? I don’t know for sure yet. The action will be different for all of us. But I know Reiki helps me.

Reiki is a means of connecting with the highest of the high energies.  The energy itself is healing.  It is more than healing.  It can help us move forward. It helps us balance, feel grounded, find inner strength and love.

I love its inclusiveness.  First, I know that reiki is not the only way to find these things.  Oops! I don’t mean to sound preachy.  It’s just that in this time of divisiveness, I feel Reiki can support one’s connection to any religion and no religion.  It can be used with and most often taught to all races, all sexual preferences and orientations, any willing level of intelligence, any age.  I see it as a potential unifying force.

Reiki is spiritual.  It helps raise the vibration of the planet one individual at a time.

If you have any connection with Reiki, I am here to help you use it regularly to help you bring the essence of who you are to others with much love and light. The ripple effects will continue to be shared.  More ripples become waves of spiritual love, compassion and acceptance.  I see this as a means of using our inner strength and wisdom to bring peaceful action to a world we wish to enhance, to a planet we hope survives.  

Thank you for taking the time to read this.  If you connect with my reflections please tell me.  It inspires me to move forward with the teaching I am planning.  I hope to expand on this further.  

Reiki blessings, with love 💕 and Holy Fire 🔥


A Reiki Healing Experience

If Reiki has been in your life, recently or in the past, you have an opportunity to have some input into a half day workshop I am developing.

It will be offered in Owen Sound on a Tuesday afternoon in March from 1:00 to 4:00pm.  Are you interested?

Let me tell you what I am thinking.  I would like to offer you a Usui/Holy Fire 11 group healing experience for sure. I would like to prepare for this with a Guided meditation that includes chakra clearing.   But before these occurs, I would like some discussion about Reiki and it evolution.  Perhaps you have some questions you would like answered.  Give me some input please.

After the healing of experience, we could work on identifying intentions that really matter to you and bringing Reiki to them.  Would you like some discussion about how to make Reiki a living experience for you.

Now of course time is limited but I will prepare a handout that will help you to remember and practice what you have learned.

I see this workshop experience especially helpful to people who have taken at least the first level of Reiki but actually all levels of Reiki.  However if you have received Reiki sessions and have read my web site info, and would like to take it, please email me and   we can discuss.

Your input is valuable to me now as I work on developing the content.  I look forward to hearing from you at livingreiki@rogers.com

Watch for more about the workshop next week.

Marie Knapp EdD

Usui/Holy Fire 11 Reiki Master

Karuna/Holy Fire 11 Reiki Master