How do you express emotions?

Let’s begin with the Reiki Precept “Do not bear anger”. A book that has recently accidentally crossed my path is Brene Brown’s most recent book called “Rising Strongly”. To me it touches profoundly on how we process the emotions we feel in the roughest part of what life can throw at us. It has left me curious about my own expression (and often lack of expression) of emotion, anger included. I recognize that keeping a tight lid on it can lead to an explosion over a small incident and at inopportune times. Or it sits there and holds me stuck.

Today, a beautiful May day, I am pondering how to safely (from my perspective) let out the feelings I hold tight and close. I wonder if writing poetry or songs or creating art work might be best suited to me, when I can speak in metaphors. Brene suggests that we can’t skip the second step – that is the step where we write the story of our anguish, perhaps many times over, taking it from the raw horrid expression in words we would never want anyone else to hear or read to something that makes more sense. Perhaps then I could move from blaming others to blaming self to not attaching any blame but accepting what is without labels. It would be different for everyone. One way does not suit all.

I think about the emotions expressed through music. Coco Love Alcorn and Tara McKenzie sing passionately without being hindered by shoulds. Also I notice there is such emotion in some of my favourite opera pieces like Celeste Aida from Aida, and Un Bel Di Vedremo from Madame Butterfly. And how I love to listen the the blend of four voices in the Quartet from Rigoletto. What about the Hurtin’ songs in country Music and the stories told in good old folk music. “We Shall Overcome” and “Blowin’ In The Wind”

It am noticing how songs, and singing are all a way of sharing our emotions in a safe way. My daughter Melanie has become quite a poet. Poetry often speaks metaphorically telling stories that can be interpreted in many ways. Speaking of metaphors, I love walking in nature and have often learned about life’s challenges from the metaphors in nature.

The first reiki precept is Just for today, do not bear anger.

This is a good example of how Reiki is helping me with self growth and healing. It nudges me when I say the precepts and often when I meditate. I am guided through some Reiki techniques that open up new perspectives for me. I like nudges rather than grand pushes. But sometimes if I don’t listen to the nudge, I get pushed.

Did you see the last blog I sent out about the Meditation and Learning Day I am offering on May 24th? Perhaps you would like to attend. Maybe you will experience a nudge too. Check it out here.Feel free to contact me with questions or comments.

Till next time (when I share with you information about Frans Stiene’s class being offered in Owen Sound May 2020.


Courage: it is Heartfelt and Meaningful

I am fascinated by the book called Daring Greatly by Brene Brown.  I can’t even begin to capture all that she writes about in this short blog.  It obviously touches a deep place in me and my own growth over my long life span.  About me personally and my relationship with loved ones.  She tends to use the word “shame” a lot which makes me cringe a bit inside.

Do you pay attention to your response to words you don’t like?  I do.  But because Brown links her work to vulnerability and creativity, I have allowed my “cringing” to be patient.  The more I read the more I learn from her.

For sure this book will guide my facilitation at the retreat.  Combined with Dr Joe Dispenza’s book, we have powerful growth possibilities when we are ready to work with it.

Meanwhile, I searched for a quote from one of Brown’s books, that supports my deep feelings about courage and the heart.  Here is one I like:

Brene Brown

“Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor – the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” Over time, this definition has changed, and today, we typically associate courage with heroic and brave deeds. But in my opinion, this definition fails to recognize the inner strength and level of commitment required for us to actually speak honestly and openly about who we are and about our experiences — good and bad. Speaking from our hearts is what I think of as “ordinary courage.”
― Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame

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