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Let’s make a change. Let’s be the change we want to create. Whenever we are tempted to share a Facebook message that gives attention to negative aspects of a person, a presidential candidate, a leader, a political party, a neighbour or family member, let’s stop and give attention to what we would prefer to see. Notice places, people, or situations, that demonstrate what we would love to see more of and give it attention. Continue reading →
First let me tell you about the fall Retreat: Self care, Soul Care
I am delighted to share with you the opportunity to attend a small group weekend retreat close to Owen Sound in this beautiful setting. This is an opportunity to catch your breath, reflect inwardly through some group discussions, writing exercises, walks in nature and sharing.
Where: at Russet Hill House, a modern, comfortable, country house on 100 hidden and wild acres (with miles of trail out the back door) near Owen Sound. For more pictures of the facility click here. Or go to www.russethill.com for more information about the place. Activities: The house sleeps ten people. We will meet inside but also use the outdoors to learn from nature on walks and in meditation. Bring outdoor footwear and comfortable clothes appropriate for the weather that weekend.
When: weekend of Oct 23 (evening) to 25 (4pm), 2015
Cost: early bird rate is $265 if you pay a $100 non-refundable deposit by July 10th.
I am open to having you pay$50 a month for 4 consecutive months following the deposit if that helps you afford this opportunity. Please let me know in advance of your intentions and we will work it out together.
In the mean time, I want to share with you some material from a book I am currently reading. This book is really meaningful for personal transformation as well as organizational change. The Four Elements of Transformation is written by Dr Janet Lapp RN PhD and is available on Amazon.
Dr Janet breaks down the process of the change process into four steps to “create radical and sustainable change”. She is clear that each step must be approached in tis order, not necessarily completing one before the other, but at least having a foun dation in one before moving on.
Dr Jan advises us to be clear on the “cause that drives” us. The cause is something that comes from within. It is my experience that that sense of purpose s not something that leaves when we retire. It may change how it looks externally but it remains at the base of the choices we make. While it may seem as though leaving work removes the opportunities to express that inner purpose, it just could be that instead you have freed yourself up to really express your inner purpose in a way that is even more true to yourself.
But even in the work world, there are ways that enhance how we feel about what we do. We feel drawn to certain aspects of the work we do. “trust Your inner voice” writes Dr jan as she promtps us to live out who we are.
I am considering working through this book as a series of workshops for fall. You may enjoy reading the book.
It seems to be in my nature to want to share information that I find has meaning for me. Jan was a classmate of mine decades ago when we both studied Nursing at St Michael’s School of Nursing in Toronto. She continued her studies with a PhD in Psychology and from there embarked on a later change to become an author and consultant who leads workplace transformation. We met for tea last fall. She is delightfully pleasant and approachable. I can hear Jan talk as I read the book. You too can hear her talk is you google her name and watch some of her short video clips. Most of them are geared to organizational leadership development but I ave no doubt that this material is easily transferable to personal growth.
I will be writing about the second step sometime soon. meanwhile do some journaling to notice what ou love to do and where you believe your inner purpose lie.
Two or more years ago I spoke with a group of interested people about intentions, taking a slightly different approach. The following is a slight modification of the notes I distributed to them.
Intentions, thoughts and feelings
Our thoughts have little power by themselves. Emotions are the power; Thoughts are the guide
Our success and failures have all been linked to our subconscious beliefs. Your intention needs to paradoxically be specific enough to be able to do it and flexible enough to be open to what is the highest good.
Types of intentions
1. Your intention for something that is of high priority and may be a bit of a stretch for you but you want to make it happen. This could relate to what you would like to see happen with your career path or you achievements.
2. An intention you might set in the morning to constructively respond to the challenges of your day Step 1 Write an intention:
Two types of intentions: An action or task or achievement Or A way of being
Intentions are more than thoughts
It is not until you can actually say these thoughts and feel them as though they are already happening that they can manifest the result.
Step 2 Feel the emotion. What feels good about it? Bring it to your heart level.
A thought without the emotion to fuel it is just a thought . It’s not good or bad or right or wrong. It has little effect, harmless and powerless, more like a wish
Belief is a form of feeling
Beliefs most difficult place to make a change, the key to change is that our belief registers with us on a deep even primal level.
Step 3 What is getting in the way?
Why aren’t you doing this already?
• There are two basic emotions, love and the opposite (fear).
• A thought is simply the image in our mind, without the energy of the love or fear has little power
Identifying the Blocks, the limiting beliefs
Thoughts + emotions = feelings, Feeling = what we think + love or fear
Emotion is the power source that drives us forward or keeps us back. Our emotions can help or hinder.
Step 4: Clear the Blocks
1. Give your reasons “why not”.
2. Find the fear you are trying to avoid.
3. Face it and clear it by feeling it and healing it energetically. Acknowledge it. Send it love. Surrender it to healing
Step 5: Energize the Intention
Feel the excitement of your intention. Feel it through your body mind and spirit as though you are already there.
What actions need to follow
• When we join the thoughts with the emotions we create feelings,
• A feeling is the union of what we think with the fuel of our love or fear
• Emotion is the power source that drives us forward or keeps us back.
• Our emotions can help or hinder.
Step 6:Express gratitude that it is already in place
This is no longer a wish. It is actually in process. Surrender it to the universe and be grateful that it is already happening.
Over twenty years ago when I was studying meaning in life in graduate school, I created a survey sheet to be filled out by those who participated in my study. I listed several items that other authors and researchers had identified as meaningful. Each item was fairly complex in order to give some breadth to the concept it represented.
My study was qualitative. The numbers were small. But the nature of the study offered me the opportunity to learn the variety of perspectives held regarding what is meaningful. What intrigued me then and now is how we identify what is meaningful.
When you set priorities regarding what is meaningful, is it because there is something you have that you hold very dear? Or is it the thing that is missing in your life that is most meaningful as you yearn to have it? These are not necessarily “things” . The missing piece could be a relationship, or peace of mind, or sense of self-esteem.
Meaning in life is different to purpose in life. There are many unanswered questions. It is OK to have uncertainty, to have questions to ponder and in the process become more aware of what we feel and the choices we make.
It’s winter. With the snow swirling outside and a pleasant fire glowing in the fireplace, it just feels right to reflect on what has been and what might come next. Last week I offered a workshop on setting Intentions for the year ahead. The twelve participants came with a variety of situations and directions. What they shared in common for the most part was wanting to move forward over the next year in a way that would be effective, caring, and connected with who they are. Fulfilling.
The time was short. Five hours are not enough to explore the concepts to the point of feeling it is completed. Perhaps a week would do it … but no… we all need times to reflect, then times to live life in reality , then take that experience back to the reflections to continue to allow our intuitive wisdom to shine forth and inform us of what might be best.
We began with reflections upon the notion that our life purpose, (if you wish to call it that, or perhaps you would prefer to call it simply what it is we feel our life is all about,) is actually evident through the behaviours we have chosen and enjoyed, that fulfilled us and led us to want to find more of that kind of activity because we feel passionate about making more of it happen.
I would be interested in hearing from you about your sense of purpose. What is it that wants to happen through you? What is it that seems to be the theme of your life, not in the sense of success or failure, but in the sense of what you long for. What seems to just be there as a part of almost everything you choose to do and enjoy?
Many of you already know the work I have done over the years related to Intentions. The events of December world-wide have moved me to offer this workshop for those of you who wish to be heartened with a new energy of hope and love as we approach what is ahead of us.
When: Friday January 18th … 9:30am till 3:00pm (lunch included)
Cost: $50 if you register and pay by Jan 11th. After that, the cost will be $70 until registration ends Jan 10th at noon.
Location: in Owen Sound. Specific location to be announced later.
About the workshop:
We will begin with reflection on your personal values as the foundation. Development of the intentions will include a focus on two areas:
■ your self-development which is important in terms of being able to be fully who you are as you also focus on
■reaching out to others in your personal and grander world in a way that is connected to your purpose.
You will learn strategies to help you grow, stay on track and return to your intentions when you humanly slip away. The workshop is designed to be inspiring and uplifting while at the same time practical and applicable.
Your participation in the workshop will involve reflection, journalling, visualization, thought records, goal setting, some sharing (as much as you are comfortable with) and meditation plus other similar strategies.
As Charles Duhigg draws his very informative 2012 book The Power of Habit(ISBN 978-0-385-66974-0) to a conclusion he writes:
“Perhaps a sleep-walking murderer can plausibly argue he wasn’t aware of his habit, and so he doesn’t bear responsiblity for his crime. But almost all the other patterns that exist in most people’s lives — how we eat and sleep and talk to our kids, how we unthinkingly spend our time, attention, and money — those are habits that we know exist. And once you understand that habits can change, you have the freedom — and the responsibility — to remake them. Once you understand that habits can be rebuilt, the power of habit becomes easier to grasp, and the only option left is to get to work.”
Habits are really what we have fed to our subconscious to help us live our life easier and more safely at some very early stage of our lives and we simply continue to live them over and over forever or until some major event or upheaval or great insight shoves us into needing something different. How empowering it is to realize that we can change and make our lives different. But never does he pretend that this process is easy!
It is September. I love September and find it is a time when I make decisions to change some specific things in my life. This week is the week I am tidying things up and starting to make a schedule to incorporate activity, writing and play. What are you doing?
You also may want to consider attending the workshop and/or retreat I am offering within the next few weeks. Click on the links for more information.
Expect to find the retreat a helpful process to guide you through experiences of change such as retirement, job loss, workplace changes, family changes, changes due to health issues and more. The retreat is a guided small group process.
The focus of this retreat is ‘Moving Through Change’. Join us in a safe place for exploring your personal “change challenges”. Get a better understanding of the feelings you experience and how you want to “BE” as you move through changes. Surprise yourself with new insights and a stronger sense of how you want to be in your vision of what is ahead. We know that change is a life experience affecting all of us at different times and in different ways. For some it is quick for others it is drawn out. Sometimes we look forward to change. At other times change can be hard to accept. By supporting the participants with the inner processing involved in change, the route to a greater sense of peace with the change may be made. In this way you may be surprised at how change can have some positive outcomes for you and others that it involves. If this is the right time for you to join us; we would love to have you.
The Retreat Agenda
If available, join us for a mix and mingle on Friday evening around 7:20 p.m. We will have refreshments and delicate but light sweets. Get to know the other participants who are on this weekend of learning and sharing.
The formal retreat begins Saturday morning after breakfast. Lunch and snacks are included. We will have a time around lunch for a few different options including rest, reading, or a walk outside. We will end around 5:30 p.m. and those who wish can get ready for a restaurant dinner nearby (optional). We will follow a similar pattern on Sunday and promise to have you on the road by 4:00 p.m.
Book the retreat through Marie. firstname.lastname@example.org. Or call her at 519 371 1255
Cost: $145 if you register and pay by Sept 22nd, 2012. (Includes, retreat materials, 2 lunches and refreshment breaks). After Sept 22nd, cost is $165. Send a cheque payable to Marie Knapp and mail to her at 294 Park St, RR 7, Owen Sound, ON N4K 6V5.
Accommodations are separate and optional. In other words you can stay at home overnight or bunk in with a friend. OR you can stay at Jan’s B & B. 249 4th St A E in Owen Sound http://memorygardenretreats.com/
You can book your accommodation at Memory Garden Retreats by calling 519-371-4746. Or email: email@example.com