Visualizing Yourself as a more senior person

You may recall this message I posted last summer. Serendipitously I happened to come across it recently. The message is an important one and seems to fit well following the last three New Years related blogs I wrote.  You may wish to read them again: Merry Christmas and Happy HolidayLooking Ahead, and Moving into 2019 with an Authentic Way of Being

Read on…….

Birthdays are only a number.  Although this sounds like a light and perhaps frivolous comment, it is actually deeper than you might think. We attach too many expectations to age numbers, sometimes in the form of shoulds, and sometimes in the form of diminishing abilities. Currently I am paying attention to releasing limiting beliefs around getting old.  Let me share a personal story.

Time passes quickly.  Sixteen years ago was 2002.  That seems fairly recent. It is in this millennium, post 9/11, and post retirement for me.  That thought is  relatively neutral until I move those 16 years into the future and realized how old I will be then.  Those numbers will have accumulated rather briskly. Yikes!

At first I was dragged down by this thought, coupled by continuing notices of the serious illnesses and/or deaths of friends, acquaintances, former classmates and relatives who are my age and even younger.  Dwelling on this thought was a downer.  I began thinking of myself losing ground, becoming weaker, less involved.  UGH! It was not a good feeling and I noticed that it was affecting my daily life in the present.  I noticed that I already was beginning to cut back on things I loved doing.

I find that Reiki self practice often guides me to higher ground. While some of the above helps me feel compassion toward those experiencing ill health, compassion is not meant to drag me down too.  Reflecting on this, I began to notice those things that gave me insights into what I needed to do.  Perhaps synchronistically I happened to see a Facebook ad from Mind Movies.  Perhaps you have seen those.  Very useful perspective and exercises.  I happened to pass through some of the previous workshops I have led on intentions, visualizations, and the effects of our thinking. I realized that I had a limiting belief about getting older that I did not need to hang on to.

As a Reiki practitioner and teacher I feel it is most important to do my own self reiki and self healing.  The more I can heal old stuff within my thought patterns and past life experiences, the better I can work with others and provide the right energy and capability to offer what they may need at that moment for their highest good. Through self care, I see old patterns that can be released. For my own personal and spiritual growth, I see a practitioner who uses Reiki and other methods to help me release them.  We work well together because I trust her ability.  I never expect a magic fix.  It always requires inner work on my part and her capabilities allow me to be more aware of the required work.  I hope I provide that for the people I see.  That is  my intention.

After I went to see my energy practitioner, I also listened to some of the audio and videos on Mind Movies and it became very clear to me what I needed to do.

Besides releasing the limiting beliefs, my inner work was to create a visualization of me as an older woman, still participating in the growth of others, still actively involved and healthy as I engage in life.  I am currently working on that image of my true self, not giving it an age number, but seeing me in the image as an older woman.  I look vibrant, caring, energetic, bright, and mentoring others, facilitating, engaging and enjoying life.  My family are also enjoying my vibrancy as an older woman and we are doing fun things together.  This is uplifting.  This image contributes significantly to the vibrancy I feel today. I am making different life choices. I welcome Birthdays. I am grateful for them.

I invite you to pay attention to how you see yourself today and in the future as you get older.  If you have learned Reiki, it can be very helpful in asking for guidance and releasing the limiting beliefs.  You may very well be able to do this without extra help but if you need me, just contact me.  We can set up an appointment.

By the way, I find this concept is also useful for people who have  been dealing with some serious “stuff” from their past and want to have a sense of “where from here”.  When a lot of time has been spent reviewing the past and connecting it to “why today”, it can sometimes lead you to a stuck place.  You may need a way to move forward from here.  This may be helpful for you.

I would love to hear your comments about this blog.  Have you had similar experiences you can share either privately or on the blog?

Till we meet again,  Marie

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Warmly,  Marie

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Moving into 2019 with an Authentic Way of Being

Once again we approach another year.  2019.  Some see New Years Resolutions as a list of things you hope to accomplish; however many goals on the list are the same ones you had last year. So now what? Should you bother?

Do do do.  What do we wish to do or accomplish?  What is really important?  Another “To Do List” is not what you need when you already have a list of tasks that you never seem to get around to.  Each day ends by simply writing several of the things that were to be accomplished today onto the new list for tomorrow. It is a busy world.

Is it possible to approach this traditionally significant date in a more effective manner? Over the years I have been using the term intentions instead of resolutions.  I think of an intention as something that resides deeper in my heart.  Sometimes I am not even fully aware of my intentions. But my intentions do govern my actions.  Look at that picture of the tree again. The intention of the tree overcame the challenges of the location for its growth.  It is a strong tree.

When it is the right time, sit quietly and let your meaningful intentions for being come to the surface.  What do I mean?  What is important right now in your life at this time? Really important.  For example do you want more peace of mind, or more authentic connections to the people you love most.  Perhaps you want to have a way to deal with  the news you really wish was not happening.  How do you really want to be as you move forward in this new year?  Let this come from your true authentic self.

This is entirely different from what you want to do.  First you want to know how you want to be in relation to the life ahead of you.  Just let it come to you.  Ask for guidance. It could relate to your relationship or your family or your work or your community or your spirituality or your health and aging or ……

I suggest you read the two previous blog articles I wrote: Looking Ahead, and Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday   Scroll down on the Blog articles page to see previous articles.

Notice how there tends to be a somewhat spiritual element to what is meaningful to you.  It feels like you are connecting to life purpose.  Be still. Let it become more and more conscious for you.  This will take some time.  Breathe deep. Let it unfold. Journal about it. There is not a dead line. January 1st can come and go and it doesn’t matter. Take time to have a real sense of what is your intention and how you want to be.  Being will be  the foundation for  what you will do  to live it out fully.

As you become aware of your deeper intentions, then start to develop the means. What do you need to do to be able to be  how you want to be?

What an inspiring feeling it is to be more and more in touch with who you are!  Let your inner bright light shine!

A side note: living life meaningfully has been important for me for many years.  My doctoral dissertation was a qualitative study on how people make changes in their lives related to what is meaningful to them.  I have continued that personal study through reading, writing articles, creating newsletters, working with Lance Secretan, and of course studying, sharing and teaching Reiki.  From when I began to teach nursing until forever, it has been part of what I bring to my work and my life.  I would be honoured to read anything you would like to share with me regarding your personal story of finding meaning. Send it to me privately at marieknapp@rogers.com

Happy New Year

Marie

Hay House Heal Summit: Dr Joe Dispensa

Today the summit began and having read his books, I decided to listen to Dr Joe Dispensa.  It was well worth the hour and a half. It was not difficult to stay focussed on what he was saying.

For me the most reaffirming piece was how we can make transformative changes in our lives by meditating.  I kept thinking about my work with Reiki and the depth of connection one is able to experience through a regular Reiki self healing practice.   I love how he talks gently but firmly about not reliving the past in our minds but to create the future image and become emotionally connected to it. I will be adding this to my daily self care practice.

But I could not possibly tell you all the major important points he made.  There is still time for you to listen for yourself.  It is free.  I plan to reread his books too.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Marie

Strengthen Your 2017 Intentions with Reiki

IMG_0869At this time of year we often feel prompted to review the past in an effort to consider a direction for the future.  Some call it “making resolutions”.  I prefer to use words like direction and intention because it moves me to a place within where I consider how I want to be over the next year.  I think a resolution is often filled with “shoulds” —  something that comes from without in an effort to please or impress others … or the mirror image of myself.  Over the last ten or more years I have given a lot of attention to intentions in workshops, retreats and personal coaching.

Personally there are some very serious things to consider as I examine the direction for 2017.

  1. Unless you are uniquely blessed with a strange genetic aberration, you are likely getting older. Me too.  As we all get older, I find that health becomes a bigger factor in one’s life.  I hear people say things like “I want to be able to enjoy and play with my grandchildren” or “I want to have quality of life as I age.”  Health seems to be high on the list of directions for the coming year.
  2. At the same time, we realize our mortality and this is another factor that kicks in sometime after age 50.  It nudges one to notice the decreasing number of years left and the importance of leaving a legacy.  Depending on how close retirement is, a person begins to think about ‘what next?’. Some people talk about freedom after retirement.  “Freedom to do what?” I have been retired for several years but still look at what is next, how do I want to be in the year ahead?
  3. The last year has challenged us with some surprise and very concerning situations worldwide.  Syria, Brexit, US elections, climate change, the death of several musicians and performers, family conflicts, financial worries, poverty, the murder of so many aboriginal women, and more.  Our world is in need of positive influences from someone somewhere …  from people living ordinary lives just caring and giving attention to what is needed.  Sometimes we need courage to speak up for what we stand for.  One person cannot do everything but when each of us considers one or two things we can do and ways we can be in a loving, courageous and caring way in situations in our lives, we become part of the movement to make the world a better place.  So how can we be different in the year ahead in an effort to help move us all to a better world?

Setting your intentions is much like making affirmations.  While some like to think of them as goals, I like to give them more power by wording them more like affirmations.

Begin each intention with “I am…”.  Here are a few examples:

 Yes I want to be healthy so I might say “I am making healthy choices in eating and exercising”  Or  “I am healthy and vibrant”

What do I want to leave behind for others? “I am practicing Reiki on myself and others every week.” ” I am continuing to heal myself in order to be better able to help heal others.” ” I am seeking out more learning opportunities for Reiki.”

“I am inwardly strong and courageously speaking my truth honestly and lovingly.”

Your intentions may be very different from mine.  Some people are looking for peace of mind, a sense of fulfillment, love.  The list goes on.

Reiki can play a role throughout the process.  Ask for guidance in determining your intentions.  Write your intentions on a paper and send Reiki to the intention.   Read you intention every day and send Reiki energy to your intention asking for assistance in bringing it to fruition. Express gratitude knowing that what you ask for is for the highest good of all concerned.  Then trust, and let go of the outcomes.

Want to share some of your intentions with me?  I would be happy to read them and send you a response if you wish.   I am sure they will be heartfelt and honest.  I wish you well.

I can also see you for individual coaching with Reiki sessions to help you move forward with your intentions and help you get unstuck. email me at livingreiki@rogers.com

You may be interested in working more on these concepts in an Intentions with Reiki workshop I am creating.   Please email me if this interests you.  livingreiki@rogers.com

Happy New Year,

I wish everyone everywhere a year ahead filled with love, peace and much joy.

Till next time,

Marie

Going Back 50 years

It has been a rainy day today.  Rainy days have some kind of quietness that moves me inward.  I love reflective moments that deepen my awareness of something even if I struggle with the words to express it all.

I passed an incredibly wonderful weekend with my classmates of 50 years ago.  Can you believe that it was fifty years ago that 89 young single women (key words there because in those days you could not be married and you could not be male in most nursing programs) walked the stage of Convocation Hall in Toronto as graduates of St Michael’s School of Nursing.  It seems impossible.  We come together as though time had not passed.  In fact it is an example of timelessness.  An example of how time is something we only make up to explain change but in reality it does not exist because we simply reconnected as though nothing had changed.

Some of us shared how the bond created back then when as young innocent young women we came together and experienced life and death in ways that we had not realized could happen before.  It was a growing up time and definitely a time of spiritual awakening that affected all of us forever.

We realized that we had become different.  Not just more grown up.  Not just more knowledgeable.  But unique in our commitment to caring and to personal growth.

Some married soon after graduation and some did not.  Some stayed close by and others moved great distances, exploring a world far greater than the city where we studied.  And this past weekend, about 54 of us gathered together again, loving each other, caring about what struggles we had all experienced and marveling at how we had come through them and continue on.  I feel so blessed.

I was a shy little girl way back in my early childhood.  The teachers always had to tell me to speak up and when we had to do our speeches I was terrible. Scared silly.  It took me a while to develop confidence.  The nursing program helped me open up.  I learned more about myself in the process.  Some people said that I was “university material” and should have gone there but for me, I needed that time at St Mikes in order to be stronger within.  I was much more able to handle University when I went there after working a year on Surgery at St Mikes.  Sometimes everything falls into place over time if you just let it.  It falls into place just as it should.

If that little shy girl from my elementary school days me the older adult that is me now, I wonder what she would have thought.  Would little Marie recognize the me that is here now?  Interesting questions.  Would the child and the older adult enjoy each others company?  I think they would.

Life is good.  I enjoy contemplating life.  I suppose that is why I so love offering retreats such as Self care — Soul Care.  It is all connected.  It is who I am.

I still have two spots left in the retreat.  Are you interested?  It will be an inspiring weekend.  You will get to spend some time with some very neat people.  Women who are probably a bit like you.  Give it some thought.  Give me a call and we can talk about it if you like.  You are unique.  Join us to share your uniqueness and strengthen who you are as you work to inspire others.  Nervous about coming alone?  Find a friend or relative to come with you.  Learn more about it here

Namaste,

Till next time

Marie

Fresh starts, new opportunities

With Labour Day weekend over, today feels like New Years day to me.  For so many years of my life the Tuesday after labour day was significant.  Perhaps I was starting something new like a new school year, or a new program at University, or teaching a new class.  Perhaps I was sending the kids off to a new class or a new school or away for university.  My hearts leaps with that remembered sense of fresh start, new learning, new books, clean exercise books, sharpened long pencils.  There is an energy connected with the first week of September.  An energy of exciting anticipation, accompanied by curious flips through new books and new people with whom to connect.  Eager to do well, I imagined enthusiastically completing assignments.  It thrills me to think about it.

I know I am best at starting up new things.  Planning and getting things moving forward are my strengths.  I am not so good at maintenance and finishing up details.  It is good to know our strengths and to have patience with our less developed parts. This summer I willed myself to complete the book I was writing about Mom’s life.  Sticking to completion of the final draft was painful for me.  My struggling attention to detail felt like a snails pace even with the excellent editing and layout help I received.  But I did it.

I have recently purchased a new sewing machine.  Oh it is a smart machine, adeptly computerized to make me look good … maybe.  In the depths of my creative being, I want to be able to sit down and make it do what I want it to do with little effort on my part but … no … that is not possible.  There is a rather steep learning curve requiring my patience to become familiar with its many features.  As smart as it is, it still requires a relatively smart operator to let its features shine.  I am learning through all the struggles.  In spite of my impatience with the process, I know for sure that it is only through more practice that I can actually  work with it more intuitively.  It will come.

How much like life these examples reveal. How much they tell me of what stuff I am made.  How much it helps me learn more about who I am simply by noticing and being aware of my response to these situations. Sometimes it is the simplest of stories that tell us most about who we really are.

What do you notice about yourself?  Are you able to have respect for even your shortcomings?

by the way there are still openings in the October retreat.  I have added a new link to give you a little more information about it.  And I have added October dates for two half-day workshops.  Go to my website at http://marieknapp.com and check out the drop down menu under events for the details.

Till next time,

warmly,

Marie

Time away from mind chatter

IMG_0616What a beautiful morning!  I love the sounds of the birds, the glow of the sun through not-so-humid air, and the greenery dappled with bursts of multi-coloured blooms all over.  Ahhh summer!

Here we are in the peak weeks of summer vacation.  We look forward to time away from the usual.  While for some that time is still filled to the brim with to-do lists, for others it is truly a time to rest from the hassles of schedules, deadlines and technology.  Enjoy!  Remember what it means to experience peace of mind.  Let the crazy mind chatter that constantly invades your active brain slow down and subside gradually.  Allow yourself to rest in the beauty of nature, the closeness of loved ones, and the enjoyed activity of your body in an unscheduled but fruitful way.  Savour the moments.  Recall what is really important for you.

Soon enough you will be planning your fall activities.  Before long you will be scheduling for yourself and the family activities for fall.  This time, let that begin with a foundation of what is truly important and meaningful for you.   Let it arise from your vacation mind-set that recognizes, after all, what you really want, perhaps even what you see as your purpose unfolding as you move through life.  It is the time away that replenishes your soul and helps you rethink your direction.  Simply allow that to happen as you free yourself from the expectations of the life that awaits you when you return. Be in the present and breathe in the blessings of life around you.  Life is wonderful.  Enjoy!

Till next time,

Marie

Oh yes, I still have space in the fall retreat Self Care–Soul Care.  Another opportunity to reflect on what is important and meaningful for you.

Self care – Soul care Retreat

I am very excited about the up coming retreat especially after my visit to the Russet Hill House facility and property last weekend.  Those who have signed up will be delighted with the warm, cosy, clean, spacious house and the 100 acres of rolling hills with a stream and trees.  WOW!!!  I can hardly wait.

Why did I select that theme for the retreat?  Often I select a focus because it is what I sense I need.  I often operate under the assumption that Carl Rogers was correct back in the late 60s when he said “What is most personal is most universal”.

Life is busy.  But it is also complex.  Even in retirement I find myself involved in a variety of things.  Often I am super busy with things I do enjoy but in the busyness of it, the soulfulness of it gets lost.  Hurry hurry means I begin to focus on getting it done rather than being  present in the moment, getting in touch with my inner self, my higher wisdom, my own self expression.

So self care helps me reduce the busyness.  It helps me set boundaries around my willingness to do things.  It helps me find more quiet time, connect with loved ones with intention, set a direction for myself.  But I always need reminders.

Sometimes I need to search for what I do love doing.  I may feel a longing or a yearning for something more but I don’t always know what it is.  Soul care brings us to that place and nourishes our soul.  And that feels really good.  Just writing about it, I feel my heart full and open.

Life has given me the opportunity to learn a great deal.  I feel a lot of gratitude for the opportunities and also I am very thankful for the opportunity to share it with others.

So here I am … doing what I love to do.

If you have not registered and would like to attend, I may be able to squeeze you in but I have to know right away.  Email me right now at dallacor@rogers.com.

I plan to offer this retreat again in the fall.  It will not be exactly the same as I know life will give me more opportunities to learn between now and then, but it will be equally valuable.  Tentatively I am looking at Oct 23, 24, 25 weekend.  Cost next October will be $260 for that weekend.  Includes food, accommodation and retreat experience.

Till next time

Marie

 

Workshop: Staying On Track. Date changed to July 5th

This is just a quick message to say that I have changed the date of the workshop to July 5th.   Same topic and same cost.  Click here to review the details

It seems that people are really busy while at the same time are very interested in the topic for this workshop.  Consider taking a morning for yourself .. a morning that will help you stay on track in the direction of your choice, whether it be health related (like weight management or exercise plans) or more of a sense of direction in getting something you really want to be or do actually moving forward in your life.

This workshop is really about changing habits.  It is about becoming aware of the habits we hold and learning some practical steps to manage them.  It is not easy and there is no quick fix, but this workshop can help you recommit to the things you are aiming to do.

The setting is lovely and during break time you can walk around inside or out and enjoy the space.  To go to the website for the Williamsford Mill Click here.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Happy Summer

Marie

Changing Old Habits is Tough Work

I awaken to sunshine and birds singing. The house may have a bit of a chill but I am not DSCF4080cold so getting out of bed does not pose the same challenge that it does in the winter. The view out the window is uplifting. Shrubs bursting in pinks and mauves. Each tree bearing multi shades of spring green. Growth abounds. It inspires me.

I breath deeply and quicken my pace to morning activities.We are getting closer to the summer solstice.  Time moves quickly in this voluptuous season.  I spend more time with friends going for walks and enjoying the outdoors.  I love it.  At the same time as I add more activities of a variety of sorts to my list for any one day, I still have some important items I want to move forward with … my long-term direction related to my health, my personal growth, the specific ways I can help others through teaching and healing.  Sometimes I get sidetracked …  by things I enjoy, by shorter term achievements, by life itself.

I wonder at the variety of choices I make each day.  While they don’t always feel like choices, I have control over them … when I think about it … when I am aware.  But how much of my day is passed in automatic pilot.  I pay attention to what I am eating, but not when I stuff my mouth with a sweet or salty snack.  What guides my actions when even though I know how I want to act, what I don’t or do want to do,  even what thoughts I want to hold,  I seem to totally ignore them and act as though I have two completely separate parts.  And I don’t!

Changing old habits is tough work.  It requires not only determination, but a lot more thought and diligence.  How does the action even begin?  How does a person make a change in well-practiced habits?  The term being in a rut may be the best image.  Each action happens because it has always happened that way.  Continually doing something in a certain way or thinking about something in a specific way creates something that is much like a rut in your neuropathways .  When you put your foot on the gas, you go to the rut you have created because that is the easiest way to go.

You may find it helpful to simply notice the ruts you are in.  Pay attention to what you think and do that is simply how you have always thought or done it.  Is there something different that might work better for you?

Actually if you are interested in learning more about this as well as some tips on how to change a habit, consider coming to my morning workshop on Friday June 21st at the Williamsford Book Store. The cost is only $25 if you register real soon. You can read more details if you click here.  Or view poster here

In the meantime, just take the time to notice your own feelings, thoughts and actions.  Awareness comes first,  Then noticing is the next step.

Till next time,

Marie